Africa Hayley’s Top Ten List

Africa is a unique place. It robs you of any comfort zone you might have created for yourself and replaces it with peace. It removes any expectations you have and trumps them with flexibility. It steals any insecurities you have and restores you with sufficiency in your Creator.

I’m a different person in Africa. I smile bigger. I laugh harder. My life is free of all media (social or otherwise). I don’t have to use a cell phone. I’m fine living without air conditioning. I don’t care if what I’m wearing is in fashion or cute, I just want to be comfortable (well, that may not be much of a change to life in the States…) But most importantly, I’m relieved of the pressures that come with being an adult. For those few weeks I’m just there. Living every moment to the fullest. Choosing others over myself. Loving deeply.

Because of this, I’ve compiled a list of ten things that I never do in America but just come naturally to me in Africa. Be prepared to learn a whole new Hayley.

#1. Clean my fingernails with a knife.
It’s true, I did this. I don’t even own a knife in America. In fact, much to the chagrin of my grill-loving friends, I didn’t own steak knives until a few months ago. And I didn’t even realize what I was doing, either. We were sitting at dinner one night and someone said “Hayley, are you cleaning your fingernails with a knife?? You’re so hard core!” Let’s not mention the fact that I immediately felt like throwing the knife across the room and making it stick into the wall. But I refrained. Probably because I wouldn’t even be able to get it across the table.

#2. Ignore the spiders in my bed and fall asleep just hoping I don’t swallow one.
Now this took a bit longer to accept, that I was sleeping with spiders, but I am positive that I snoozed with at least half a dozen at one time or another. And I’m sure I swallowed a few as well. Oh, protein.

#3. Walk in darkness through a Game Park Lodge not even caring that at any given moment a warthog could jump out and attack me.
Pumba may have made warthog attacks less scary to me, I’m not sure. But I do know that when I saw them, I started singing to them. “He’s a big pig! You can be a big pig too, oy!”

Speaking of talking/singing to animals…

#4. Talk to lions, elephants, giraffes, baboons, impala, zebra, and any other given animal I saw in the wild… in my puppy voice.
…And get in trouble for it.
For some reason I talked to every animal we saw while on safari. I called them “honey” and “buddy” and whistled at them to get their attention and asked them to come play. And halfway through the day our driver finally said, “Um, we aren’t supposed to call them”. Oops.

#5. Take 16,000 Rand out of the ATM and think nothing of it.
Because I had to pay our remaining balance once we got to South Africa, and because Captivate Church in Baltimore gave a very generous donation towards us purchasing things for the people of SA, I had to visit the ATM twice to take out very large sums of money. The rand to dollar ratio is 8 to 1, so I may have been carrying around $2100 but it was 16,000 rand, in 100R bills. All I wanted to do was roll around in the cash. I didn’t. But I may have made it rain.

#6. Stand up in front of a large group of people and speak about what the Lord has done and is doing.
As is the case with almost everyone, I’m not a huge fan of public speaking. Even though I took two courses in college, including Advanced Public Speaking, I’m still never completely comfortable behind a microphone or speaking in large groups. Let me blog about it and I’ll be just fine hiding my tears behind the computer screen. Make me stand up and talk about it, and you’ll probably be witness to a shaky voice behind a soaking wet microphone. Talking about what is so near and dear to my heart stirs up emotions that are not easily pushed back down. Just ask Susan, who asked me about my trip the day after I got home, and got in return a blubbering mess of a woman. However, this is not the case in Africa. I am so grateful that throughout my time there, I was able to stand up and talk in front of large crowds of people close to a dozen times, and each time I felt completely comfortable and at ease. He surely is the Great Sustainer!

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. So never be ashamed to tell others about our Lord.” 2 Timothy 1:7-8

#7. Eat a cold fried chicken drumstick for breakfast.
For those of you who don’t know, South Africans LOVE meat. Any kind. Any time. We ate meat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. And at dinner we’d have 4-5 different types of meat. One thing we learned in orientation was that if you want to hinder the gospel, leave food on your plate, because it is considered highly disrespectful to do so. Thankfully most of the time we were able to serve ourselves, so we got only as much as we wanted, but I’m not lying when I said that I considered being a vegetarian after about two days. I went to the grocery store the day we came home and all I bought was fruit, which was surprisingly scarce in South Africa.

#8. Have morning devotions with the police department.
Believers in the Musina Police Department have devotions once a week, and they invited us to join them for theirs. We sang and Joe preached about putting on the whole armor of God, and then the head of the department told us to go home and tell our police departments that we were “handled with care” at the Musina station, and that we were allowed to preach the Word of God. I wonder if this would even be possible in America.

#9. Wake up at 5:30 every morning to watch the sun rise.
There is something about a sunrise in another country that inspires me. I almost always get up to watch the sun rise while traveling overseas. However, this is NOT the case in America. Not even when I’m traveling in America. I’m the girl who wakes up at 7:30 am for her 8:00 am job. Sleep is a precious thing. However, I woke up every single morning in South Africa to watch daylight arrive. It was a nice way to start my morning, but I don’t think I’ll be making it a habit by any means.

#10. Pick up and hug on children I’ve never met before.
This is actually a tricky one, because if it were up to me, this wouldn’t just be an Africa thing. Every time I see a “little baby kid” out in public, all I want to do is go pick it up and play with it. Especially when it is obvious that they are adopted. Don’t even get my started on how excited that makes me. But unlike Africans, I’m pretty sure American parents wouldn’t approve of strangers holding and kissing on their children. I know if I were a parent I’d be creeped out by it, which is why I do my best to refrain. But don’t think I’m not wishing that momma would ask me to hold her child. Or that I’m not wondering just where the creepy line is.

So maybe now you feel like you have been to Africa with me? No? Okay, well I guess we’re just going to have go back, then!

Brief Update on the LOVE Africa Blog

I blogged over on the LOVE Africa blog about our time at the Girls Shelter! Go check it out!!!

And to make this post a little more exciting, I’ll include the two videos from the trip that I’ve actually uploaded so far.

1. Erin wrote and recited the story of Hosea from the perspective of Gomer at the Women’s Conference in Johannesburg and it was incredible! I don’t think there was a dry eye in the place. The story of Gomer and Hosea is such a gorgeous and unique picture of God’s unconditional love for us.

2. I’ve decided that my favorite animal is the elephant. I was teetottering (is that a word?) on the decision for a while, but having seen them in person and in their natural habitat, I’ve made the official decision. Check out this cute family of pachyderms crossing the road!

Home.

So we are home from South Africa. I’m not exactly sure what I am supposed to say at this point, but I felt like an updated post should happen. Here is what I can tell you: God WORKED. He moved in a mighty way. And we were priviledged enough to witness His work.

Because He is so good, and because of the faithfulness of so many, I have some numbers I’d like to share with you.

Your sacrifices allowed us to give:
130 pairs of flip flops
115 pairs of men’s underwear
80 men’s collared shirts
Dozens of sticks of deodorant
50+ Bibles
4 Suitcases filled with clothes and
$1,000 to help clothe and feed 130 children in an orphanage that was found the day after we left Musina.

BUT… Most importantly, we were able to minister to people from 9 different countries, and saw at least 290 professions of faith!!!!

I’m telling you… it was overwhelming. The need is GREAT. The harvest is ripe! The Lord is THERE!!!

Please pray for the people of Musina with me. Pray that He sends believers alongside these new members of the Kingdom to disciple and encourage them!

May He alone be GLORIFIED.

 

“As Your Name Deserves”

I leave for South Africa in two days!!!!

A prayer of over two years, is finally being answered. My mom, sister, brother-in-law, and I will get to experience Africa together. Each of us using the unique passions the Lord has given us. Each of us ready to experience all that Africa wants to offer us.

“All I know is that every time I go to Africa, I am shaken to my core.” – Stephen Lewis

“God isn’t looking for people of great faith, but for individuals ready to follow Him.“ - Hudson Taylor

Hundreds of people have prayed for this trip already. Hundreds. And that is the greatest gift. When I do not know what to pray, I hope in the knowledge that He has prayer warriors covering my back. That He understands where my heart is, even when I cannot put it into words, is one of my favorite things about my Saviour.

“Finally, dear brothers and sisters, we ask you to pray for us. Pray that the Lord’s message will spread rapidly and be honored wherever it goes, just as when it came to you.” 2 Thessalonians 3:1

I cannot say thank you enough to every person who has donated, prayed, encouraged, and loved our team. You are just as much a part of our team as any of us. You were not called to go with us, but you have done what the Lord has called you to do, and that is all He asks of us. Obedience.

“God’s work done in God’s way will never lack God’s supplies.” – Hudson Taylor

I don’t know exactly what the trip will look like. I do know that we have a schedule… and I do know that that schedule will more than likely be interrupted. I also know that, Lord-and-internet-willing, you will be able to follow our trip while we are over there. To do so, click on the photo below!

So again, thank you to everyone who has made this trip possible. We are so looking forward to sharing with you how the Lord works! May HE get all the glory!

“We must be global Christians with a global vision because our God is a global God.” – John Stott

As Your name deserves, O God, You will be praised to the ends of the earth. Your strong right hand is filled with victory.” Psalm 48:10

Birthday Giveaway!

It’s my birthday! I’m officially in my late twenties and I’m not sure how I feel about that… BUT because it is my birthday, I’m giving away the VERY LAST James 1:27 t-shirt!

Not only does the shirt share an important message, but it has been described as feeling “delicious” and “the most comfortable t-shirt I’ve ever worn”. Once you put it on, you will never want to take it off!

Whether you wear it on a cruise with famous Christian speakers and filmmakers, bowling with friends (where it has won the title of ’good luck charm’), to a fast food restaurant with your best friend, while visiting the coast of West Africa, or to cook Thanksgiving dinner with your Mom - this shirt is ready for any and all occasions!

SO…

The first person to leave a comment with the correct location of my place of birth… and can wear (or give  to someone) a size LARGE Crew Neck shirt, gets it!

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AND THE WINNER IS….. BLAKE!!!!

Congrats – you did your research and found that I was in fact born in Fort Worth, Texas! Thanks for playing – more giveaways are coming!

Beauty in the Risk

We leave two weeks from tonight. Count ‘em, two.

This week, we received a set schedule from South Africa, packed up and prayed over all of the wonderful donations that you have given, organized our orphanage plans, and now we’re sitting on the edge of our seats, ready to go!

Our Lord continues to amaze me. He doesn’t need me, and yet He chose me. To be His hands, His feet. To show His love. And to be changed because of it. Because, after all, I need Africa more than Africa needs me.

I wrote this on my blog as I was preparing to go to Uganda a little over two years ago:

I need Africa more than Africa needs me. I need to be ripped out of the American Dream, away from the average American life overloaded with consumerism, reality television, Facebook and Twitter. I need to witness how this world lives and suffers. I need to see God being worshiped in the poorest places on earth. I need to understand what it is like to only have God to depend on in the midst of disease and poverty. I need the joy of the African people. And I need to be His hands and His feet.

This world is not my home, but while I am here, I will not allow it to remain stagnant. I will not enter Heaven and see the face of my Glorious Creator without having done His work. I will obey Him by bringing His love and His justice to His children. Whether they live in Kampala, Uganda or Albany, Georgia, His ever-present love must be shown.

…or Musina or Johannesburg, South Africa…

I need this trip. I need to experience that contagious joy of Africa again. I look back on my photos from Uganda, and I’m not sure it is possible for me to be smiling any bigger than I did while I was there.

The beauty of it is, not one of us will come back the same person as when we left. Our hearts will be broken and will never exactly be put back together the same way. We’ll be struggling to balance all that we are trying to process with our reality here in the States. We’ll try so hard. so hard. to explain what happened, but it will not always be easy and our words will not do it justice. So we’ll pray that we bring that contagious joy, hope, and love of Africa back home with us. And that others will be moved by the Spirit to do whatever it is He has called them to. Because when He asks us to risk something for Him, it will surely be beautiful.

Enjoy this free design download, which I think makes for a great Facebook Timeline Cover Photo :)

{By the way, if you are still wondering what exactly we will be doing in South Africa, check out our team blog and get to know us a little better.)

Don’t Short-Circuit Your Wait

Check out 1 Samuel 24.  Specifically verses 1-22. Go ahead, give it a read, then come back to me.

Finished? Okay. Let me give you a brief explanation of how David had gotten to this point. As a young boy, he was chosen by God to be King, but Israel wanted Saul to be their king, so Saul was annointed by Samuel as such. Because of this, David had to wait until Saul’s reign ended for his reign to begin. But David was very popular, and Saul became jealous of David, to the point of wanting to end his life. When David heard this, he had to run to the desert, where he stayed (ran) for quite a while.

After months of running, David and Saul meet up in En-Gedi (which I like to pronounce “Anne Geddes” aka the famous baby photographer… but that must just be me). While on the hunt for David, Saul had to go potty, so he went into a cave to do so, not knowing that David and his men were hiding in the back of that cave.

This was David’s chance. One swing of his sword and he could have ended this waiting game right then and there. Success and victory was literally within his grasp. Even his friends were quoting Scripture trying to convince him to do it!

“Look, this is the day the Lord told you about: ‘I will hand your enemy over to you so you can do to him whatever you desire.”

David had a choice to make. He didn’t know that everything would work out, and that one day he would become the most famous king in Israel’s history. All he knew in that moment was that Saul and 3,000 of his men were there to kill him.

David could have easily listened to the advice of his friends. He could have easily reasoned that God had put Saul in that cave with him to end his waiting. The circumstances just seemed too right for it not to have been God. Right?

But in the middle of this crisis, David made the wise choice.

He chose not to kill Saul. Nope. He simply cut a corner off of Saul’s robe and let him go.

David knew that Saul was still under God’s authority. He continued to refer to him as “the Lord’s anointed”, and he knew better than to mess with God’s man.

You and I fall into these same traps. In the midst of our waiting for    fill in the blank   , we come across situations that seem like they must be God’s solution to the wait because… how could it not be? Our friends are telling us it is God, and we can find verses of Scripture supporting this theory if we look hard enough… so of course its God!

The thing is, there are commandments in Scripture that we must stand upon in the midst of our wait, regardless of what others say or how we feel about a situation. We must seek to please Him above all else – ourselves and our desires included. Bending our will to His, we must be confident in Him, because He’s on it!

We may never know the consequences of ending our wait earlier than He has planned. They could be huge. In David’s case, killing Saul could have created an all-out war between him and his best friend (Saul’s son) Jonathan.

But look at the good that came from David’s obedience.

When David had finished speaking, Saul called back, “Is that really you, my son David?” Then he began to cry. And he said to David, “You are a better man than I am, for you have repaid me good for evil. Yes, you have been amazingly kind to me today, for when the Lord put me in a place where you could have killed me, you didn’t do it. Who else would let his enemy get away when he had him in his power? May the Lord reward you well for the kindness you have shown me today. And now I realize that you are surely going to be king, and that the kingdom of Israel will flourish under your rule. Now swear to me by the Lord that when that happens you will not kill my family and destroy my line of descendants!” So David promised this to Saul with an oath. Then Saul went home. (v. 16-22)

David’s willingness to continue waiting called off the man hunt, and he and Saul parted ways in peace.

So trust the Lord’s timing, don’t try to manipulate the situation yourself. He can see the big picture, you cannot. That alone should have you lifting your hands in praise to the One who holds it all together.

Take this time to worship Him for who He is. Prepare your heart for what He has next for you. Oh, and read Psalm 57, which was written by David while in that cave. Reading it in this proper context is fascinating and eye-opening.

Erin and I with the cave in En-Gedi

More Than “I” Can Handle {Book Review}

More Than “I” Can Handle by Eileen Mestas is an incredible story of the faithfulness of God. I’m going to get to it but first let me tell you how I came about this wonderful story.

Two years ago (as you probably already know), I traveled to Uganda with a group of strangers who soon became friends. On that trip were Jonathan and Ellie Mestas. This brother and sister worked hard, loved big, and laughed loud the entire time we were in Uganda. I loved getting to know them and serve alongside them. While on the trip, I heard about the rest of their family back home – three biological and five adopted children – and was obviously interested to hear more! When I returned home, I kept up with their family somewhat through Facebook and their blogs (see links to Eileen and Ellie’s blogs on the left). So when Eileen sent me a message asking me to read her manuscript and write a review, I couldn’t be more thrilled.

It was nice to be able to sit down and read through the Mestas family’s life - from infertility to a home busting at the seams! As soon as I began the book, I didn’t want to put it down. I was enthralled by the amount of faith that the Mestas family has in our Lord. They do not allow anyone or anything to stand in their way when He calls them to do something!

One of the biggest lessons I learned from reading it was what a blessing it is to include your children in your faith journey. Her children have walked this journey of faith with her – praying and crying out to God alongside her for Him to bring a miracle, and rejoicing and praising Him when He answered their prayer. I couldn’t help but be more excited about having my own adoption story one day and sharing with my children the bigness that is our God.

If you have a heart for reaching the fatherless, whether it be through adoption or through orphan care, this book is a must-read. It is a beautiful picture of pure religion (James 1:27) and the truth that He will not leave them as orphans (John 14:18).

As I turned each page, I continued to find myself in awe of just how mighty our God is. I wept, I laughed, and the word “wow” came out of my mouth more than once. The Mestas’ story has inspired me to risk more for Christ, because He has proven His faithfulness, and He will guide us through the risk!

A friend of mine shared this with me not long ago, and I think it coincides perfectly with the title and theme of this book.

“‘God will never give you more than you can handle’ is NOWHERE in the Bible. Nope. You can look… it isn’t there. It says there is no temptation that He won’t provide a way out from–but it NEVER says He will only give you what YOU can handle. If you thought it was a Bible verse–man made that one up. For those that seek Him with their whole hearts–He will probably give you MORE than you can handle. Because He doesn’t want YOU to get the glory for it. He wants to carry it FOR you–for others to see the IMPOSSIBLE done through HIM…and for you to know and see that it is NOT your strength but HIS that carried it through. If you feel the impossible is before you TODAY–then you are probably in the right place. So take a DEEP breath, thank the Lord for it, lay it at the cross and trust the One who walks beside you to carry the weight of the yoke. He has got whatever is before you today. He is ABLE. He is I AM. And He is ENOUGH.” - Andrea Pierce Young

For more information and to pre-order the book, visit http://www.morethanicanhandle.com

 

The Most Important Event in History

Having already been betrayed and arrested in the Garden of Gethsemane, denied by Peter, abandoned by His friends, and beaten in the house of the High Priest Caiaphas, Jesus spent part of Thursday night alone in the darkness of this pit. Take a moment and read Psalm 88 – it is the heart breaking picture of how He would have felt that night.

Early Friday morning He was pulled from the pit and put on trial in front of Pilate and Herod, mercilessly beaten repeatedly, and eventually sentenced to death. The Roman soldiers played “The Kings Game” with Him at Antonia Fortress, where you can still see traces of the rules to the game carved into the stone, and where our Savior’s DNA rests in between those rocks.

Beaten, exhausted, and because of OUR SIN, He had to carry the weight of His cross to Golgotha, where He was hung below a sign: ‘The King of the Jews’. He was unjustly crucified beside mockers and thieves. He was spit upon, yelled at, and His side was pierced, fulfilling the prophecy in Zechariah 12:10.

As He hung there, nails through His hands and feet, unable to breathe without pushing Himself up and beaten beyond recognition, darkness fell across the land. Around three o’clock, Jesus called out with a loud voice, ‘Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?’ which means ‘My God, my God, why have You abandoned Me?‘ Then Jesus shouted out again, proclaiming “Tetelestai” or ”It is finished“! And He released His spirit. At that very moment the curtain in the sanctuary of the Temple was torn in two, from top to bottom, giving every person on earth – every person - access to God and His salvation from sin.

“So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive His mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.” Hebrews 4:16

On Friday night, His breathless body was lowered from the cross and carried by Joseph of Arimathea and Nicodemus to a borrowed garden tomb, where His body was wrapped in spices and linens, and laid to rest.

Saturday was a day of in silence. The followers of Jesus were afraid and in hiding. Everything that they had given their lives and families up for was gone. They doubted everything that they had believed for the last three years. And they will not begin to understand why He has abandoned them until tomorrow morning. But we have read it, and we know that He will be raised again early Sunday morning. And we can rejoice in the fact that this tomb… is EMPTY.

“But very early on Sunday morning the women went to the tomb, taking the spices they had prepared. They found that the stone had been rolled away from the entrance. So they went in, but they didn’t find the body of the Lord Jesus. As they stood there puzzled, two men suddenly appeared to them, clothed in dazzling robes. The women were terrified and bowed with their faces to the ground. Then the men asked, “Why are you looking among the dead for someone who is alive?He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Remember what He told you back in Galilee, that the Son of Man must be betrayed into the hands of sinful men and be crucified, and that He would rise again on the third day.” Then they remembered that He had said this. So they rushed back from the tomb to tell His eleven disciples—and everyone else—what had happened.” Luke 24:1-9

Thoughts from a former teenager

I have become more and more uneasy with the fact that every.single Christian teenage girl event/book/Bible study is the same idea.

Purity.
Modesty.
and
Relationships.

If you will just wear a  cami under that v-neck and a t-shirt over that bathing suit, you’ll be a godly woman, and you’ll find the perfect husband and live happily ever after.

Now don’t get me wrong, I believe in all of those things I listed up there. Purity is SO important. And modesty is key in striving to remain pure. And yes, finding the right person to marry is one of the most important decisions a woman must make.

But why don’t we just teach these girls to LOVE THE LORD?

Love His Word.
Obey Him.
Be passionate about Him.

If we would just teach these young women the importance of Scripture study - how to dig deep and apply the principles found in the Word to their daily lives, then the rest should fall into place!

Let’s work on sanctification first and foremost. As sanctification occurs, she will know the importance of saving herself for marriage, and she will therefore dress modestly so that she is not a stumbling block to her brother in Christ. Then she will WAIT on His chosen one for her, knowing that she is called to a higher standard as a follower of Christ!

“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Solomon 2:7

Maybe I just don’t care for the girly stuff. I never have. But I believe that no amount of fake wedding receptions, tea parties, or pajama nights make godly women. It must come from spending intimate time with the One who is LOVE.

I know its not easy. I do. And I’m not saying I was this perfect teenager who never cared what people thought or what boy might like her. I have wasted a lot of time on a lot of people. And here I am, nine years later, and I couldn’t even tell you their last names. But I am telling you what I wish I had known at that age. And what I wish I had done. My time was wasted on the things of this world, when I could have spent that time getting to know the only One who knows me better than I do, and still loves me unconditionally. There will never be a more beautiful picture of Love than that.

So girls, lets stop focusing on ourselves and the boys around us. Stop trying to make yourself a better person so that you’ll marry a better person. Work on being like Christ. Focus on Him (on His face, not His hand). After all, that is why we are here. This life isn’t about us; it isn’t about making us happy. We are called to live holy lives for His glory, and we cannot do that when we are focusing so much on ourselves and our happiness.

Besides, one day, if and when you do meet your husband, wouldn’t you want it to be said of the two of you what was said of Zechariah and Elizabeth? “Both of them were righteous in the sight of God, observing all the Lord’s commands and decrees blamelessly.” To observe His commands you must know them and practice them. And as you learn and obey, you can definitely ask the Lord for a helpmate who has done just the same. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I highly encourage it. But let’s not forget the reason we are here. Just read Philippians 2:15-16:

“So that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain.”

Let’s shine, girls.

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