When it comes to the stereotypical “bad boy” image, what do you think of? My first thought is always the leather jacket, riding a motorcycle, cigarette in hand, treating his women like they are scum, while they worship the ground he walks on. When a guy thinks about the “bad boy”, I think most of them secretly want to be that guy. They long for women to fall at their feet and think that they are the greatest human being on the planet. Every guy wants to be respected, admired, and needed. But something that I have noticed is that the “good guys” get pretty upset when women react in such a ridiculous manner to the bad boy. They don’t seem to understand why a woman is so attracted to someone who treats them like crap. Why we tend to go towards the bad guys first, and why it seems adventurous and dangerous to us. Often times, the bad boy is a distraction, just a waste of time until we are ready to settle down.
But here is where my case comes in:: Men, you do the exact same thing. Seriously, think about it. There is always a girl in a guy’s life who is in the “friend zone”. I myself have been in that situation, where you would be willing to go on a date with your friend, if he would ask. But instead, time and time again, you watch him fall head over heels for this girl who seems to only keep him around simply to boost her self esteem. She is the “bad girl”. She flirts with him, all the while refraining from guarding his heart, and he falls, thinking she’s the only one for him.
So where do we go from here? We recognize the fact that we all fall for the “bad boy/girl”, both male and female alike, now what? Will there always be those types of people? Yes. Are they fun distractions? They can be. Is it healthy? No.
Recently, I have come to understand just how important it is to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life”. If we truly understood this, that our heart is where our life starts, then we would understand how important it is to guard it. It affects every aspect of our life. And it should not be treated lightly.
But we should not simply guard our own hearts, we should guard the hearts of those around us. These “bad boys/girls” are doing just the opposite. They are flirting, with no regard for the person whom they are flirting with, and in the end, it can be detrimental.
We should always be weary of not guarding the hearts of those we love. I see it on a daily basis. What seems to be simple flirting for one party, is breaking the heart of the other party. And that is where some major guarding should be taking place, on both sides. Flirting may be fun, but in the long run, do you want your future spouse to have been treated that way? Dragged in the dirt, heartbroken, despondent, all because someone wanted to distract themselves for a short time?
So keep in mind that the heart is precious, and it needs guarding. And you are JUST the person to do it.