Thanks to an acquaintance and the 403 Revolution youth revival tonight, I have a new blog topic for you guys.
Tonight, Randy (the speaker at the youth revival) talked about what God is calling us to be. But this message was more than the usual answers (i.e. disciples, obeyers, faithful, glorifying of Him…which are ALL things we should be). Rather, he spoke about how God has called us to be Men and Women. Seems simple enough, right? I am already a woman. I was born a woman. Easy. Well, let’s look at Genesis 2 for starters.
“The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.
18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
These verses are probably familiar to you. You’ve more than likely heard the story before. But let’s think about verses 18-22. In verse 18, God states that it is not good for man to be alone. But it isn’t until verse 22 that God creates a helpmate for Adam. After He states that Adam needs a helpmate, the Lord allows him to be lonely for what could have been decades described in verses 19-20, as he was assigned to name all of the animals. Seriously, think about how long that would take to encounter every single species of every single animal and come up with a name for it. In Donald Miller’s book Searching for God Knows What, this comes as a surprise to the author, because he, like most of us, doesn’t think about the Garden of Eden as being lonely. We don’t consider life before the fall of man as a place of solitude. But it was. Even then, before sin was brought into the world, the Lord had Adam wait. Alone.
This was a refreshing thought. I love reading a passage of Scripture and finding something brand new. It happens often, actually, and it always excites me. This gives me hope that, as I am waiting on the Lord at this time in my life, He knows what is best and He is willing to have me wait, while He prepares me. And while I am waiting, He has a few tasks for me.
God created men to be leaders (see verse 15: Adam was to care for the Garden) and lovers (Ephesians 5:25-28). And He created women to be helpmates. To encourage, to be kind, to be discerning, wise, and hard working (see Proverbs 31). He created us to work together, to help one another, and to wait for one another.
As I was working on my Bible study for my discipleship girls, I came across Song of Solomon 2:7 – “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” This is something that every one of us (including myself) should memorize and live out. Male and female alike. We should not arouse love until the Lord brings it to us. Don’t go searching for it. Don’t give yourself a timeline for your life by saying “I want to be married by ___”. The Lord does not honor this. He honors the servant who waits patiently. Who does not sit at home wondering when they will be loved, but uses their time in service to the One who will always love them the most! He desires us to live lives of purity. To live up to His standard of purity. To be men and women called of God to serve, to wait patiently, and to obey Him. To be men willing to respect the women in their lives (this is so rare in our culture), even if they are not married or dating. To hold them to a higher standard, and lead them towards righteousness. To be women willing to serve, submit to (that’s right, I said it), and encourage the men in their lives. We should be working together to see that we live lives of purity, integrity, and obedience. The Lord created men and women to be partners through this life. So whether you are married, dating, or single, this is your calling. Respect one another, love one another, and live out your roles as men and women!