I have become more and more uneasy with the fact that every.single Christian teenage girl event/book/Bible study is the same idea.
If you will just wear a cami under that v-neck and a t-shirt over that bathing suit, you’ll be a godly woman, and you’ll find the perfect husband and live happily ever after.
Now don’t get me wrong, I believe in all of those things I listed up there. Purity is SO important. And modesty is key in striving to remain pure. And yes, finding the right person to marry is one of the most important decisions a woman must make.
But why don’t we just teach these girls to LOVE THE LORD?
Love His Word.
Be passionate about Him.
If we would just teach these young women the importance of Scripture study – how to dig deep and apply the principles found in the Word to their daily lives, then the rest should fall into place!
Let’s work on sanctification first and foremost. As sanctification occurs, she will know the importance of saving herself for marriage, and she will therefore dress modestly so that she is not a stumbling block to her brother in Christ. Then she will WAIT on His chosen one for her, if that is His will for her, knowing that she is called to a higher standard as a follower of Christ!
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Solomon 2:7
Maybe I just don’t care for the girly stuff. I never have. But I believe that no amount of fake wedding receptions, tea parties, or pajama nights make godly women. It must come from spending intimate time with the One who is LOVE.
I know its not easy. I do. And I’m not saying I was this perfect teenager who never cared what people thought or what boy might like her. I have wasted a lot of time on a lot of people. And here I am, nine years later, and I couldn’t even tell you their last names. But I am telling you what I wish I had known at that age. And what I wish I had done. My time was wasted on the things of this world, when I could have spent that time getting to know the only One who knows me better than I do, and still loves me unconditionally. There will never be a more beautiful picture of Love than that.
So girls, lets stop focusing on ourselves and the boys around us. Stop trying to make yourself a better person so that you’ll marry a better person. Work on being like Christ. Focus on Him (on His face, not His hand). After all, that is why we are here. This life isn’t about us; it isn’t about making us happy. We are called to live holy lives for His glory, and we cannot do that when we are focusing so much on ourselves and our happiness.
Besides, one day, if and when you do meet your husband, wouldn’t you want it to be said of the two of you what was said of Zechariah and Elizabeth? “Both of them were righteous in the sight of God, observing all the Lord’s commands and decrees blamelessly.” To observe His commands you must know them and practice them. And as you learn and obey, you can definitely ask the Lord for a helpmate who has done just the same. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I highly encourage it. But let’s not forget the reason we are here. Just read Philippians 2:15-16:
“So that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain.”
Let’s shine, girls.